That's a very helpful clarification, Fr. Gregory.
The problem of adapting the teachings of the Lord to the circumstances we sinners manage contrive for ourselves is present in every age, and it is perhaps optimistic to expect Canon Law to keep up.
Every broken marriage, even those which it may suit Rome to regard as never having taken place validly, is a personal tragedy. In a society where spiritual formation by any Church is often absent, to expect consciences formed by secular mores to act in a way they might have had they been formed by the Church is not only over optimistic, it may well be self-defeating.
The Church is a Church full of sinners, and it reaches out to other sinners. At some point its Canon Law needs to be attuned to these circumstances. Drawn up at a time when it was expected that consciences were formed by the teaching of the Church, canon law seems, at least on this issue, to sit uneasily alongside a situation where the Churches have signally failed in that part of their mission.
We are not, in any meaningful sense of the words, a Christian society, and in our dealings with those who, almost miraculously, find their way to the Church, we need to recall Our Lord's willingness to forgive, and also His injunction to sin no more.
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10)