First, welcome here; good to have you with us.
On the specifics it would be more appropriate for a priest like Fr. Simon to comment, but in my experience of the BOC it is a real Christian Church - that is it welcomes repentant sinners and it does not place too heavy a yoke on us.
I hope you, and your wife, will both find within Orthodoxy a deeper understanding of the Faith once given.
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10)