Dear Neil and Sue,
May God send His Holy Spirit to comfort and guide you at this time, and grant you the wisdom to make the correct decision.
If you are in need of learning material to help you, I suggest a request on the 'Ask a Question' part of this Forum will get you offers or suggestions of books and dvds. Also, depending on where you are, you may have a priest not too far away that could chat to you - all their contact details are on the BOC website.
With love and prayers,